Another journal page…mixed media
Thinking Valentines…thinking “heartful” and “heartfelt”…and what that means for me.
I’ve been musing about self love (a lot). It’s becoming more and more important for us to learn to love ourselves…completely and without reservations, just as we are. We all judge ourselves, both physically and emotionally and often with a frequency that makes it seem like normal behaviour.
It’s just not OK to do this to ourselves anymore…not even in the privacy of our own thoughts!
We all know how it goes; we aren’t thin enough, we aren’t young enough, we aren’t smart enough, we aren’t lovable enough and on it goes. We believe that if we were somehow different…more than what we are…the world would love us more, things would be so much better and we would feel safer.
If I can just say one thing about this, it would be…”we don’t get to be mean to ourselves anymore”.
It’s too important.
There’s too much at stake; our health, our relationships, our peace of mind…it all hinges on self love and self worth. We need to start small but start somewhere, with something. We all have something that we judge ourselves harshly about. Do we even recognize when we’re being “mean” to ourselves?
A big one for me as it is for most women, has been “aging”. It was a HUGE step for me to let my hair go naturally grey last year and to actually be good with this evidence of me getting older. It was also a huge step for me to love myself as a single woman, when I was divorced. Huge. It took a long time to get there, but I did (and then promptly fell in love and got married!). We all have something(s) that we think would be impossible for anyone else to love because we can't love it ourselves.
I don’t get to be mean to myself anymore…how about writing that on a piece of paper and sticking it up on the mirror? You couldn’t get a better Valentine from anyone!
(Can you tell that this is something I feel passionate about? ;)
My wish for us all is that we will gift ourselves with a kind and gentle love today...and everyday...
ps…my friend Char at Ramblins, wrote a beautiful love letter to herself today…stop by and read it. What a perfect Valentine she's given herself!
